Michelle Obama on Failure and Resilience

Michelle Obama on Failure, a quote from her talk at Howard University on Sep 1, 2016

One thing I want you all to remember is that failure is an important part of success.  Nobody up here went a straight line to success.  There are bumps and slip-ups and embarrassments that you think you will never overcome.  Everyone has had it, from the President on up or down, whichever way you look at it.   
The thing that you can’t do it hide from your failures and not seek help when you are struggling... it’s resilience that gets you through.  The people who are successful aren’t the people who succeed all the time, it’s the people who can recover when they fail... Remember that.  There are people here who love you, who are here, they want you to succeed...don’t think you have to do this alone.  Because nobody does anything hard or good or important alone. 
Full transcript of the talk with Michelle Obama, Nick Cannon and Seth Meyers is available here:


Post-Election: Coping, and Acting

NARAL meme in support of minority communities feeling threatened after the election results fo 2016
I stand with the the vulnerable

Post-Election: Coping, and Acting

Sigh. Hoo. It's rough out there. Like, rough. Yesterday I was definitely in the "anger" phase. I drove home with one hand on the wheel the other over my mouth, deep in thought and worry for the future.

Today, I feel more hopeful, as I see the people who are reaching out to others to stand up with the vulnerable and threatened communities. 

I was maybe going to go to a Love Rally and a poetry reading, but I realized that today need to be an at-home self-nurturing kind of day. 

I cooked, a lot. I made an amazing smoothie, baked oat bars (no raisins, though, but instead a raspberry swirl - hiya Tori) and made a homemade veggie tomato sauce. With the day off -- thanks, Veterans -- I had the time to take a long, hot shower. (As opposed to my 5-minute, hair not washed type daily showers). I listened to the podcast "Stuff Mom Never Told You." I started a new journal; I titled it "Grimoire for Dark Times." 

After an accidental nap from 5-8, I watched "Moone Boy" and made dinner. Now I'm reading Pantsuit Nation posts on Facebook -- my, do I cherish that Open Secret Group. The posts gave me the idea to make a donation to Planned Parenthood in Mike Pence's name, which is what I did, for $10. And I got the info for volunteering at the library for ESL adult tutoring. 

I've also decided to compartmentalize. My regular Facebook page, this blog and it's link-list sister blog at Tumblr and my Twitter feed will be where I post my political stuff. Instagram and VintageBridgeStyle.com will remain as tacitly political as they've usually been. (I think it is "political" act to promote sex positivity and body positivity they way I do in those forums, but I do not do with added political commentary. I just let it exist and complete its mission by its existence.) I look forward to having a space carved out for myself that isn't infused with the urgent worry I have for the present and future of this country and the world. 

So, anyone reading this who is like me and feeling worried, despairing, anxious and on the verge of hopeless, I hope my ideas for distraction and empowering have inspired you. And I'll end with this quote, that I got permission to share, from a Pansuit Nation post:

"There is an old saying: When change happens there are three steps: first, it is ridiculed. Secondly, it is violently opposed. Lastly, it is viewed as self evident. Election night showed us we are still in Stage 2 instead of 3. Frustrating, yes, but not the end. If anything, it shows that we are winning."